A lot of efforts go into looking for the right person for guidance. If you can find a Steve Jobs or Maya Angelou to mentor you like Mark Zuckerberg and Oprah Winfrey did, you can reach great heights with their advice and help. But it is not always about finding someone great. It’s about finding someone who is a right fit for you. Here are a few tips to find the perfect mentor for yourself:
1. Know what you expect
Mentorship can open new doors to improving yourself professionally as well as personally. But most times mentees don’t know what exactly it is they want from the mentor-mentee relationship. Are you looking for someone to guide you in your career or in a particular aspect of your life? Setting down what you expect from mentorship is a good first step to undertake. A clear objective of why you need a mentor will help you in finding an exact match for your requirements.
2. Check the Chemistry
Having the right chemistry and understanding with your mentor could be something that enhances your mentorship experience greatly. For most people, a mentor is like a best friend. In this case, the mentor should ideally have the same belief systems and be able to connect with you on a much more personal level than just a coffee session. Look for someone who you can relate to and who you want to be like going ahead.
3. A Mentor can be a stone’s throw away
Everyone has celebrity mentors and some do try to reach out to them for mentorship. But celebrities don’t always have the time to do so. If not personally, you can always find inspiration in their blogs, websites and books. People closest to you and around you can also be very good examples of mentors. Asking your superiors for feedback, your peers for advice and your relatives for their opinions can give you the positive boost you need.
4. Reach out to those you really want to be mentored by
If you have a very well thought idea of who you want as your mentor but geographic and time-bound aspects are an issue, you can do a lot through social media. Study the person. Reply to their tweets, retweet those you like, comment with your opinions on their blog posts, suggest your ideas to them over email, the possibilities are endless!
5. Be open to feedback
The job of a mentor is to bring out the best in you. Therefore a constant flow of constructive criticism is part of the job profile for both parties. You might get the best outcomes from the mentorship if you take the criticism and work on your weaknesses.
6. Have more than one mentor
You might want help and direction in more than one aspect of your life. One mentor cannot be an expert in everything that you want them to help you with. Someone who can help you career-wise may not be able to help you become a stronger individual or develop a certain value. Hence look for multiple mentors and know your expectations with all of them well.
The benefits of mentorship are obvious. Beautiful, symbiotic relations can be formed with your role models if you take effort and initiative to contact them. But if that is not a viable option, look around you and you might be surprised by how many success stories you can be inspired by.
Mentorship is a strong relationship between you and the person who is willing to see you succeed. Share this relationship by choosing a co-working space in Connaught Place, New Delhi or business centre in MG Road, Bengaluru.